Guest Story by Tiffany
My deep brown skinned daughter doesn’t know anything else but she is beautiful. I just don’t understand this concept I’m glad this movie was made because it will give me lots of insight on this type of thinking so that my own baby never ever thinks or feels like this.
Maybe its my not understanding that makes me feel like its just as simple as people just don’t want to be black. I really don’t know or have the same experiences as a brown skinned person I guess. My daughter has brown skin and she is gorgeous absolutely beautiful and if she was lighter skinned she still be just as beautiful as she is with brown skin. if we wanna talk about this type of complex with darker skinned women we should broaden the scope because within each race there are darker skinned people. In the hispanic culture there are darker skinned hispanics, Dominicans, Cubans, Mexicans, Italians, American, Indian- I mean every group of people all comes in all different shades and I think it’s really only our race that has such an issue with dark there are a lot of people that really just don’t want to embrace black or any type of ethnicity. I am happy that Bill Duke did address this. It will give me a better outlet to address this issue with my 10 year old daughter because what I don’t want is for her to grow up and feel like she’s not as pretty or she’s not pretty because her skin is brown because that’s 1 of the most beautiful features about her I don’t want her to hate and not embrace that because it opens up a lot of doors for self hatred that I don’t want to open she is beautiful dark brown skin and all deep brown eyes high beautiful cheek bones and the thing I’m most proud of is how smart she is.
We should all just STOP this BULLSHIT and get down to the real issue. It’s about being black period! The real issue is people don’t want to be black anyway so then they begin feeling like I’m already black but do I have to be dark skinned to? Why can’t I be light? When really the true question is why can’t I be white because I’m lighter skinned but the fact is I AM STILL A BLACK WOMAN, LIGHT SKIN, LIGHT EYES, SANDY BLONDE HAIR, AND ALL! I STILL EXPERIENCE PREJUDICE I STILL HAVE TO PROVE MYSELF DIFFERENT BEFORE I PROVE MYSELF QUALIFIED FOR ANY OPPORTUNITY.
There is nothing better for me being lighter complected than there is for any other black person. If a man views me as more beautiful isn’t that the flaw of the man? His flawed thinking in no way makes it truth. I still get loved, hated, cheated on, cherished in the same manner with the same statistical numbers as any browner skinned woman. I’m black which makes me a dark girl somewhere if not everywhere except within my own community. It’s as equal opportunity as any form of prejudice. I get treated funny by African Americans because I’m light whites because I’m black and its the same for “Dark” girls so these feelings are misguided. We are black and what shade of it we are is a minuscule detail.
Imagine if Naomi Campbell felt the same, where the hell would she be because her dark skin is not beautiful right? WE are not raising our daughters to embrace their shades whether it be the darkest to the lightest of brown no escaping it people we are black and beautiful as soon as we all come to terms with this fact we will then be able to get over it ur not white no matter how long and blonde ur weaves or how light your skin! Problem is we let society define what is beautiful and we run with their definition internalize it and scar ourselves our children and our childrens children. Become an individual stop dancing to someone else’s fucked up beat. This is ur song on your album and you and only you can make it multiplatinum because if u don’t believe in u no one will. When u look in the mirror if you don’t see beauty neither will the rest of the world so let’s take some responsibility and this is what I will tell my daughter when the time for this conversion is right.
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