Guest Story by Princess O’Nika Auguste
I have always suffered from low self esteem and lack of confidence, which makes this hard to write. I am Princess O’Nika Auguste and I was born St. Lucia a small island in the Caribbean. Like I stated, I have always suffered from low self esteem, I always wanted to be lighter skin and have straight hair . You see my grandfather was mixed white and black and fortunately for my mother she came with a light complexion and “good hair” I always wanted to have the light skin and good hair , my family primarily focus on hair texture but skin tone was subtly introduced even though they did not know it, My family wanted me to marry a white man because not only my children would have “good hair” but a lighter skin complexion. My younger brother who was lighter skin than me and had better hair seemed to be their favorite. I don’t think it was intentional on my family’s part but it seemed that way and that’s now I perceived it and I resented my family.
I am now attending an HBCU in the US and I think the bias towards skin tone is worse than what i had experience so far, some of my professors were known for their bias towards lighter skin students, I didn’t expect it to happen at a HBCU but it does happen. At school my low self esteem got even lower. I was depressed because compared to some of lighter skin peers I was not considered beautiful and sunk deeper and deeper in depression
I finally got my confidence back when I took a history class and a philosophy class. In those classes I learned about the great civilizations of Egypt and Cush and their dark beautiful Nubian princesses like Nefertiti and I realize that I am beautiful because of my dark complexion and I can be a Nefertiti in my own world. I realize I don’t need to be light skin or have good hair to validate I am beautiful but I am a Princess because of my dark skin.
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